One moment..

One of the by-products of outstation visits is watching a lot of TV. I am stationed at a supposedly weekend getaway where I visit the beach only to find out that its pitch dark and the local people explain why,”Sir, yahan jo aate hain, unko light ki jaroraat nahin”. I had no such fortune/intentions and as such I have no option but to sit in the hotel room and watch TV. Nevertheless, enough of side talk; let’s come to the point. The last song that came was some which repeated Lal Lal n number of times. And some respite, it wasn’t Himesh. Pretty ordinary song (even with Priyanka Chopra) but one line caught my attention… “Uski bat ban jaati hai, jo na ganwaye mauka….” (For those naïve in Hindi: Things go well for people who don’t waste opportunities) I really liked these line…Think of it; u mite be fucking good, but if u have floundered at one critical moment, you are screwed. You might be a damn good student, but if u made that one critical mistake, you are fucked; you might be a damn genuine friend, but if you mess one time, its gone; you could have been a damn good boyfriend, but if u have said one wrong sentence in the initial courtship period, you have had it, all gone and lost…one mistake when it matters most..just one.. No one gives a damn!! One wrong move and it all goes away. Life doesn’t give a damn on what your intentions are, what you are really worth, what you really deserve, what you really are in a steady state of affairs. All that matters is how you have been as measured in these critical moments. Think of it, just one moment decides so much. And if you are one of those whose external behaviour/conduct has a flat bell curve a lot of times, all the thought about genuineness, what you deserve etc are nothing more than thoughts which give solace in times of solitude and that happens pretty frequently. How I wish some 6 sigma project was available for this… And this is not the end of the problem. Most of the times, we are judged by not what we mean, but what we are seen as meaning. Judgment is cast depending on the judge’s interpretation of your external conduct. Wow, what a damn situation. In an ideal situation, one should be judged by one’s intentions, but in reality: Your intentions translate into your action, your action takes some shape and these external manifests are viewed by someone else to cast a judgment: 2 stages of intermediation and both offering immense scope for fuck-up. What you intend need not come out in your action and your action need not be interpreted by the judge in the right manner. Fuck up, Fuck up and more fuck up. Anyway, there is no point getting into all these discussions. Life is rarely fair….

Crib!!!!

Show me one person who doesnt crib. We crib regarding everything and best part is anything we do, the crib doesnt stop. Lets take one example...no prizzes for guessing what..its of Babies... Right from people with beautiful (milder version of hot) babies cribbing about everyone ogling at you know what...to people with not so beautiful babies cribbing the previosuly mentioned lucky folks...to people with no babies cribbing about the fact that the only thing they seem destined to do is ogle at other girls...to people with multiple babies cribbing about, how one girl doesnt allow him to enjoy his privacy with others....people crib in every situation.... Even at job..at times I feel that my work time oscillates between either sitting at office or visiting some godforsaken client location..And either situation involves a crib...if u r in office u crib about how bad it is trying to control things with a remote control and not being where the action is..to if u r at client location u crib about how u have to travel 5 hours a day while ur other friends have confortably glued their asses to the seats... However, some people have reached a different plane altogether in this art of cribbing...A close friend once gave me a call to ask for my company over dinner since he wanted to discuss something very important..and guess what were his opening lines.."Bro, everything seems fine, but on a higher plane I dont know where I am headed; what direction is my life taking.etc etc". Guess people find reasons to crib, even when there's none!!!! And though slightly disconnected, I cant help but end this piece with a remark I made to one HR lady in an intrvw (such things u typically keep reserved for interviews only): Well, I think its very important to strike a balance between satiety and desire to do more and more...Satiety cause its the source of happiness and desire ensures that complacenecy doesnt creep in...hence its very important to strike a balance between the two. We should crib but in a balanced manner!!!! Dont know what she actually thought (female and that too HR...can you ever even remotely make out what she would be thinking)...but said.."Its a really interesting thought and I must say, very mature as well." Lolz...How i love these HR interviews!!!!

Nice observation...

Someone recently told me... Ramzan....one of the holiest periods for Muslims has the Hindu word "Ram" in it and similarly "Diwali", one of the most famous festivals for Hindus has the Muslim word "Ali" in it.... Nice observation!!

Just a thought....

Life is weird. I remember an old saying which goes something like, “You don’t know the wealth of water till the well is dry”. Think about it; its so strange na. To appreciate and realize its value, u have to lose it, the well has to turn dry. So unfair; the appreciation for a certain thing comes only when the thing is already gone; rarely does life give the chance of having something and enjoying it too under the awareness of its importance. Lets not go very senti…lets look at a simple example…how does it feel when u are expecting a call and keep looking at your cell phone, expecting that now the call will come, now the call will come and as always happens, it gets delayed..and what happens to you in the meantime, your palpitation increases, your anxiety increases, you start thinking about all kind of possibilities and when the call finally comes, you are so damn happy….Let me put u a simple question,”Would you be so happy if the call came as expected?” The answer is a simple no. What does it mean; your source of happiness also lies in the delay in the call or the pain associated with it. It’s so damn strange and amusing; for happiness to be enhanced, it needs to be preceded by pain and here again, what an irony: greater the pain, greater the subsequent joy. But if that were the case, life would be simple. But as is the reality, whatever is in the present is sure, whatever is to happen in future has an element of doubt or risk in it, you can never say for sure you will get something or not. Future is after all future and present is present…and however hard you try, you cant bring to present some things u want and keep shifting into future the things you don’t…